RSW Week 7

RSW Week 7

 

 

I’m working my way through Ready, Set Write! this summer 🙂

Week 6 Update:

1.  How I did on last week’s goals:  It’s amazing what you can do when you set the bar low.  I wanted 2000 words and surprised myself by getting 3000, so yay!  I also made my goal of 2 trips to the gym.  We were in NYC for my daughter’s surprise birthday trip, which was totally amazing, and ended up walking about 22 miles in 3 days, so I’m counting that as an exercise win as well.  I also ordered the materials to start the 21 Day Fix, so I’ll get started on that probably next week when I have all the stuff.

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2.  My goal(s) for this week:  A very loft goal – finish the draft by Wednesday night.  I’ll need probably 9-10K for this, I think, so I’m really suspending all activity and just writing.  Why am I doing this?  Because I get to meet my agent in person on Friday (!!! and back to NYC for a quick adult trip) and I want to be able to talk about this with her.  She knows about it, has blessed the idea, but it will be great to have something complete.  Fingers crossed.

3.  A favorite line from my story OR one word/phrase that sums up what I wrote/revised.

I head into the kitchen and press play on our ancient answering machine that Dad insists on keeping with our ridiculous landline “in case the power goes out.”

Mom’s voice crackles. “Hi Theo, this is your mother.” No shit. “I know you’re so excited to talk about college with me, but I met a professor at the farmer’s market the other day and mentioned how brilliant you are.” She probably embellished to make herself look good. “He told me he knows some people in admissions up here and would be happy to talk to them on your behalf if you’re interested. Said sometimes they’re willing to consider late applications. Just think about it okay. And call me.” She air kisses into the phone and then the message clicks off.

My mother has sunk to new lows by discussing me with total strangers. There’s no way I’m calling her back or spending any time thinking about the stupid favor she’s calling in. No, Mother, I will not do this just because you want. There is absolutely nothing wrong with me not going to college right away if that’s what I want. And there’s also nothing wrong with me not knowing what I want. And if I don’t figure it out until I’m forty and make lattes for bratty high school kids while I marinate on my life’s purpose, so be it. I’m so sick of this being in my face all the freaking time.

4.  The biggest challenge I faced this week (ex. finding time to write):  As always, just time.  And being distracted by everything else shiny around me.  I’m determined to beat it this week.

5.  Something I love about my WiP:   Right now, I’m excited that it’s almost done and that I can go back and revise, lol.

How did YOU do?

 

RSW Week 6

RSW Week 6

I’m working my way through Ready, Set Write! this summer 🙂

Week 6 Update:

1.  How I did on last week’s goals:  Derailed!  I got sick Monday night and it took the entire week to recover.  I managed to get about 2500 words, thankfully, and I’m pleased about that, but no gym, no 7 min workout, and no letter prepping.

2.  My goal(s) for this week:  We’re taking our little one on a surprise trip to NYC for her 5th birthday M-W, so my time is limited this week.  I’ll shoot low and say 1000 words and 2 trips to the gym.  My BIG goal is to have my draft done by next Thursday 7/23 but I’ll have to bust my booty next week to make that happen.  I’m thinking I’m about 15K away.  I’ve also rationalized that I can start my letter writing the last week of July and still finish on time, so that’s a relief.

3.  A favorite line from my story OR one word/phrase that sums up what I wrote/revised.

KISSING!

In a flash, before I realize what he’s doing, Theo is standing on top of the hardwood seat on his side of the booth. “Can I have everyone’s attention for a second?” Oh god. I want to slide to the floor. This is not what I had in mind. I squint up at him, his arms stretched out not unlike when he’s doing a magic show. “I just want to take a moment of your time and let everyone present know that I like Phoebe Lennox.” He puts heavy emphasis on the like so there is no way to misunderstand what he means. “We’re here on our first date tonight and it’s going swimmingly.” Our waiter whoops from the front of the room and a few diners, the ones who aren’t totally confused or annoyed, start clapping. “Just thought you all should know. Hope your evening is as great as ours.” He gives a half-wave, half-salute to the room, steps onto the floor and sits back down just as some clever patron begins clinking their knife on their water glass. The sound gets louder as my cheeks get redder. Theo’s brow furrows. “Why are they doing that?”

I barely choke my words out. “It’s what you do at weddings when you want the bride and groom to kiss.”

“Oh.” Still squinting because I can’t bare to look at him fully or I might combust, I watch Theo slide out of the booth again, stand in front of my side and offer me a hand. “We can’t disappoint our audience, now can we?”

4.  The biggest challenge I faced this week (ex. finding time to write):  Sick sick sick.  It’s hard to be productive when you can’t keep your eyes open.  It’s annoying to have lost so many days but I did my best.

5.  Something I love about my WiP:   Did I mention there was kissing this week?  I always have a romantic element to my books, some much stronger than others, but I tend to save the kissing for the very end for some reason.  THIS book has kissing earlier and I’m so glad, even though I know conflict is coming and soon.

How did YOU do?

RSW Week 5

RSW Week 5

I’m working my way through Ready, Set Write! this summer 🙂

Week 5 Update:

1.  How I did on last week’s goals:  a very successful week, I am pleased to report.  I cracked 5,000 words in my WIP, which was more than I wrote the entire month of June I think, so yay!  I’m also in the place where I’m beginning to see the end.  It’s still a little bit away but it’s not too far off.  I also completed the 7 minute workout 5 times and went to the gym 5 times.  Boo.  Yeah.  I did not prep for any recommendation letters, though I can’t really say I’m sad about that.

2.  My goal(s) for this week:  Same as last week – 500 words a day or more M-F.  Prep for at least 3 recs.  Go to the gym 5/7 days and do the 7 min workout 5/7 days.

3.  A favorite line from my story OR one word/phrase that sums up what I wrote/revised.

Content is a watered-down version of happy. Most people want to live their life being blissfully happy, don’t they? They want to feel fulfilled in their choices and by the people around them. One hundred percent certain that they did what they were meant to do. At least, that’s what I’ve always thought.

“That sounds like settling, Grandpa. No offense, but being content is not my goal.”

4.  The biggest challenge I faced this week (ex. finding time to write):  Honestly, not much?  I’m officially on summer break and everyone else in my house is either at work or camp, so I’ve got as much peace and quiet as I need to get work done.  That said, I do have the procrastination disease (hello social media) and will sometimes put things off until it’s too late in the day to do them.  Mostly I’ve been really good about writing first thing and then exercising or vice versa.  After lunch I save for other things.

5.  Something I love about my WiP:   It challenges me.  I’m writing dual POV, male and female, and my female is very much not like me and not like many people I know IRL.  She’s hard to wrap my head around and I have to really think hard about what she would say or do.  It’s pushing me to be a more thoughtful writer.

How did YOU do?

RSW Week 4

RSW Week 4

I’m working my way through Ready, Set Write! this summer 🙂

Week 4 Update:

1.  How I did on last week’s goals:  Thank you to everyone who has been thinking good productive thoughts for me!  I made great use of my travel time last week AND my first day of summer vacay Friday and got a solid 3500 words.  I am so pleased and feeling a lot more confident going into my first full week of break.  I also prepared for writing my college recs and downloaded a new fitness app–7 MWC (7 minute workout)–and started that Saturday.

2.  My goal(s) for this week:  500 words a day or more M-F.  Prep for at least 3 recs.  Go to the gym 5/7 days and do the 7 min workout 5/7 days.

3.  A favorite line from my story OR one word/phrase that sums up what I wrote/revised.

“So. What’s going on? We don’t see you around these parts much.” I gesture to the stacks of books surrounding us. “Contemplating a career in academia?”

“I was thinking bodybuilding actually. These fuckers are heavy. I could have a six pack in about a week hauling these things around.”

4.  The biggest challenge I faced this week (ex. finding time to write):  Time and lack of structure.  I was bound by someone else’s schedule last week so I basically had to make due with the little time I had.  Luckily for me, the lack of wi-fi on the plane and the ridiculously long time it took my hotel to tell me my room was clean worked in my favor.

5.  Something I love about my WiP:   It’s funny.  A CP read the first half this week and 95% of her comments were laughter.

 

Another thank you to everyone who cheered me on last week and left me comments – it helped tremendously.  I’ll be commenting back this week for sure!

 

 

RSW Week 3

RSW Week 3

We’re 2 weeks into Ready, Set Write!

Week 3 Update:

1.  How I did on last week’s goals:  Last week was stressful but this week was just plain busy.  I wrote even less, around 1000 words total, but they’re still words.  I also managed to do a good amount of mental plotting, which I always find useful at the times I am able to sit down and write.

2.  My goal(s) for this week:  I’m out of town 3 days this week and have another busy weekend ahead, so my goal is just to write a little while I’m on my trip.  The plane should be useful for accomplishing this one.

3.  A favorite line from my story OR one word/phrase that sums up what I wrote/revised.

I am sixty percent ready to think about this.  The other forty percent of me wants to ditch the laptop, ignoring the white screen with black font listing for me the millions of decisions other people want me to make.  That slice of me wants to slam the thing closed, jump in the car, and abandon all practical prospects, maybe taking on the open road to Vegas and seeing what opportunities throw themselves in my path.  I can almost feel the wind in my hair as the very first blank space wins in a staring contest.  

 

4.  The biggest challenge I faced this week (ex. finding time to write):  Time is the biggest factor.  I’m so so close to having hours upon hours of writing time, so I’m hanging in there for now.

5.  Something I love about my WiP:   Even though I may not always be able to write what they say down right away, my characters keep on talking to me.

RSW Week 2

RSW Week 2

We’re one week into Ready, Set Write! and ready to share updates of progress.

I set a bunch of general goals for the summer, some that won’t happen until I accomplish others or until I’m off work for the year (less than 2 weeks!) so until then I’m aiming for 500 words most days of the week on current WIP.

Week 2 Update:

1.  How I did on last week’s goals:  I managed a sad 1500 words this week, but I had one of the most stressful weeks ever of my work career, so I wasn’t quite in the headspace to be creative.  I’m hopeful that I’ll be able to move past it this week and dive right back in.

2.  My goal(s) for this week:  Basically improve my word count over last week, which shouldn’t be too difficult.  I do have a jam-packed weekend and I’m planning to make good use of my weekday writing time.

3.  A favorite line from my story OR one word/phrase that sums up what I wrote/revised.

“Are you sure? I know this isn’t your thing.”

“Please stop trying to convince me I don’t want to be here.” Theo’s voice is low like a warning, but a kind one.

“Okay.”

“And it’s your thing, so today it’s my thing.”

Theo squeezes my hand, wraps an arm around my waist, and leads me back onto the convention center floor.

4.  The biggest challenge I faced this week (ex. finding time to write):  Work.  Drama.  Stress.  Not being able to compartmentalize, which I normally am very good at.

5.  Something I love about my WiP:  That my characters feel completely real and flawed and I adore them.

Here’s hoping for a good week!

RSW Week 1 – Goals

RSW Week 1 – Goals

Starting TODAY, I’m participating in Ready. Set. Write! –  program designed to increase productivity and accountability.  In years past, I’ve had a lot of success with Camp NaNoWriMo, but I’m not in a place to start a new draft, so RSW sounds more up my alley.

This week we’re focusing on goal-setting.  Here are mine:

 

1.  Finish drafting current WIP.  It’s a little more than half done, so I’m shooting for being done with the first draft by mid-July.

2.  Revise and polish said WIP until it’s just right.

3.  Revise and polish an older draft.

4.  Write 35 college recommendation letters.

5.  Make healthy choices.  

 

Technically my summer won’t begin until June 25, but I’ll be doing my best until then.

 

Next week I’ll be reporting back with these headings:

 

1.  How I did on last week’s goals.

2.  My goal(s) for this week.

3.  A favorite line from my story OR one word/phrase that sums up what I wrote/revised.

4.  The biggest challenge I faced this week (ex. finding time to write).

5.  Something I love about my WiP.

Can’t wait to get started!

 

BEA: Eating in NYC

BEA: Eating in NYC

If I’m not there for the books and BEA, I’m in New York to eat.  I like to go at least once annually, and spend way too much time researching restaurants.   The Javits Center is pretty centrally located and even if your hotel is not, the Subway is easy to navigate and taxis aren’t expensive if you’ve got friends to share with.

And when you’re done eating, here are some sites I’ve enjoyed

Cheap Eats:

Pizza Suprema:  I heard on the radio about a blog called Slice Harvester, where this guy ate at every pizza place in NYC and rated them.  This was his number one place, which they let you know by having copies of the article at every table.  Large slices, clean restaurant, fairly quick service.

Chelsea Market:  There are so many different little specialty shops and restaurants, so much to see and taste.  I could spend hours here.  It’s a great stop for a cup of coffee, a cupcake or a quick snack.

John’s Pizzeria:  This one is located in Times’ Square in an old church space.   Delicious ingredients, perfect crust, just all around yummy. No slices, but worth sitting down and sharing a pie with friends.

Veselka:  This is a Ukrainian diner of sorts.  A dear friend took me here a couple years ago and I loved it so much. They serve fabulous cheese and potato pierogi, blintzes, and all kinds of American breakfast items.

Shake Shack – There are several locations in the city, including Times’ Square area and Central Park.  The burger was decadent and juicy and the crinkle cut fries were excellent.

Clinton Street Baking Company:  Best pancakes ever, hands down.  No reservations, so be prepared for a wait.

Milk N Honey Kosher Deli – we came for breakfast and found the bagels to be very tasty.  They seem to have a wide variety of offerings for lunch as well.

Katz’s Deli – this is where Meg Ryan’s famous “I’ll have what she’s having” scene from WHEN HARRY MET SALLY was filmed.  I recommend the corned beef, matzoh ball soup, pickles and hot dogs.

Nom Wah Tea Parlor – Dim sum served here since 1920.  Excellent soup dumplings.  I was here with an author friend doing research and our walking tour guide, a long-time resident of New York, directed us here.  We were more than happy he did!

Nice Dinners:

Barbuto: Chef Jonathan Waxman was on Top Chef Masters and is known for his roast chicken, which I had and highly recommend.  Also loved the gnocchi and crispy potatoes.  This restaurant is in an old garage, and is casual and fun.

Colicchio & Sons Tap Room – I love Tom Colicchio from Top Chef (sensing a theme here?) and the menu is good for foodies, but your less adventurous friends will be happy here too.  The squash soup was fantastic.  UPDATE:  This one is now sadly closed *sad face* but I’m leaving it up for the memories.

WD ~ 50 – Wylie Dufresne is one of my food heroes.  This is the site of my most favorite meal ever.  Ever.  The deconstructed Eggs Benedict are to die for.  If you can get yourself to the lower east side, do it!  You do need a reservation.

The Stanton Social – everything on the menu is yummy.  And the atmosphere made me feel cooler just for being there.

Red Rooster – Marcus Samuelsson’s Harlem restaurant has something for everyone and is effortlessly elegant and comfortable.

Scarpetta – Scott Conant, a frequent judge on Chopped, makes the best spaghetti on the planet.  I loved it so much I ate it in the Las Vegas location and again in New York 2 weeks later.  Totally worth it.

Momofuku Noodle Bar – Recently crossed this perpetually talked about ramen restaurant off my list.  The wait will be very long at peak times (we happened to walk right in at noon on a Tuesday), but the generous bowls of noodles, flavorful broth, meat and veggies are worth it.  My picky 5yo declared it the best restaurant in the city.

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Dessert:

Magnolia:  One of the original cupcake bakeries, a favorite of the Sex & The City ladies.  My personal fave is the caramel.

Junior’s:  This is a stop for me every time I’m in the city.  Who goes to NYC and doesn’t get cheesecake! Take pictures of the huge, decadent slices and send them to your friends at home to make them jealous.

Donut Plant:  I’d seen this place on a couple different Food Network shows and would recommend it for a quick snack if you’re walking around Chelsea.  The blackout cake donut was excellent!

Big Gay Ice Cream:  for the 2014 BEA, several of us walked an insanely long distance to get here and it was totally worth it.  Who doesn’t want a Salty Pimp or a Bea Arthur?

Momofuku Milk Bar – Of the cereal milk soft serve, the crack pie and the malted milk truffles, the truffles were the winner for me.  I’d go back and try more stuff any time.

And now I’m hungry and dying to get to the Big Apple.  If anyone has any other favorite food stops, feel free to suggest them; I’m always looking for more.  

BEA – what to do in NYC

BEA – what to do in NYC

Though I’m not going this year, here are some of the things I love to do when visiting New York if you’re in the midst of planning your trip to BEA, otherwise known as book heaven.

Eating!

 

I’m a food enthusiast.  I’ve planned whole vacations around places to eat.  NYC is one of the best places to try new and exciting things to eat, both cheap and spendy.  My go-to place to find eats?  Eater.   There’s a list of links on the right side that will take you to the best places for dinner, for drinks, for brunch, etc. and keep you up to date on what’s new and popular.  And they have a great app.

 

My thoughts on where to eat in NYC

 

 

Sightseeing!

 

If you’ve never been to New York, the touristy destinations are a must.  The Statue of Liberty, Ellis Island, The Empire State Building, Central Park, etc. are amazing if you can schedule them in to your visit.

Some of my other favorites:

The Museum of Modern Art – I don’t always understand it but modern art museums are always fun for me.  I love trying to figure out what the artist was trying to say.  The MOMA is pretty awesome and offers free admission from 4-8 pm on Fridays.

The Metropolitan Museum of Art – a perennial favorite.  They have literally something for everyone.  I love the Arms & Armor collection.

Tenement Museum – choose a “path” of an immigrant family and learn about how they lived.  Completely fascinating.  Probably not for small kids or impatient adults.

 

Walking & Exploring

One of my very favorite things to do in cities is just walk around, take in the sites and architecture, and people watch.  NYC is one of the best places to do this.  You can go on your own or take part in one of many organized, themed walking tours.

Scott’s Pizza Tours – hubs and I did one several years ago and found Scott to be an epically funny tour guide.  And bonus, you get to eat the pizza.

Neighborhoods/Places to Walk – Little Italy, Chinatown, Times’ Square, Chelsea, The Highline, Lower East Side, Central Park

 

central park

 

Broadway!

 

I’m a theater girl, always have been.  Seeing a show on Broadway, for me, is a quintessential New York experience.  My BEA companions and I have our tickets purchased already and I’m ridiculously excited.  You can check out a full listing of what’s on via Playbill and purchase tickets through the links provided there, or try a discount site.

Broadway Box

Theater Mania

You can also visit the TKTS booth in one of their 3 locations to snag some great deals on day-of tickets.  Be prepared for lines though.

 

 

These are only a very small sampling of things to do when you’re not at BEA – please feel free to add your own favorites in the comments!

Writing Mental Health & Professionals Responsibly

Writing Mental Health & Professionals Responsibly

In my day job, I work with teens in a public high school.  My antenna always goes up when a teacher or a counselor or a psychologist or a social worker is mentioned in YA novels because 9 times out of 10, the author gets some aspect of that role wrong.  I’ve seen some discussions on social media lately about how many authors – usually grown adults – write these characters based on their own personal experience in high school because that was the last time they encountered those professionals.  That was sometimes upwards of 20 years ago.  Thankfully, educators are being trained differently now and there is often a large component of professional development that focuses on mental health, recognizing warning signs, what actions to take, how to talk so students will listen, etc.  In my opinion, this is a very positive change and I see it making an impact in my school every day.  I’m grateful to know that when my daughter gets to high school, she’ll have so many people looking out for her.

 

Which brings me to today’s soapbox – what is the author’s responsibility to the reader?  When writing for teens, it should be common sense that you don’t have to treat tough subjects delicately – they can handle more than many adults give them credit for.  But, there’s often a fine line between realistic and blatantly wrong, especially when we’re talking about mental illness and getting help.

 

I recently read a young adult novel where there is a strong presence of mental illness with a very mixed bag in terms of outcomes.  I found it quite readable with charming characters and lots of authentic moments.  However, from almost the first page, I found myself getting more and more angry at the way the author handled certain aspects.  I felt so strongly about it, days later, that I felt compelled to share some thoughts and suggestions in the hope that someone might think twice next time they approach this type of character or situation.

 

Something you might not know if you don’t work in a school is that there are specific rules that all educators and mental health professionals are legally obligated to follow when it comes to crises. If those rules are not followed, the results can be as varied as encountering an angry parent to getting fired to harm caused to a student.  Those rules are in place for a reason.  We strive for the safety and well-being of all students – this is something schools are constantly talking about and working to improve.

 

As authors, we’re obligated to research what we’re writing about, even for contemporary stories.  When it comes to schools, it’s so easy to draw on our own experiences because it’s also easy to assume everything is the same in education as it was back then.  I would challenge authors that it’s also pretty easy to find a teacher or a counselor who will tell you what it’s really like these days and how the legal obligation to our students impacts us.  Pick up the phone.  Send an email.  We’re friendly.  Most of us don’t bite.  And most of us want kids to know we’re on their side, so we’d be thrilled to tell you about what our days are like.

 

That brings me back to this book I read.  A professional in a school setting appears several times and makes a series of poor choices regarding a mentally ill student.  Some of the behavior was so incredibly wrong, I wanted to cry.  If I had been a teen reading this book, the message I would have taken away is that adults in schools aren’t on my side and there’s no point in reaching out for help because they won’t help me.  I fight every day to make sure my students know I care about them and will do everything in my power to help.  As does every educator and mental health professional I’ve ever known in my 13 years in this field.  Are there unhelpful people in this profession?  Absolutely.  But for every unhelpful educator, there are twenty that will bend over backwards for any student.

 

In light of all the misinformation that floats around, I offer how we do things in my county.  This is what any professional would – and should –  do if a student in crisis showed up at our door or was brought in by a friend:

1.  Assess the situation.  If the student is suicidal, we use PLAID PALS to gauge the level of severity.

2.  If the student is not actively suicidal, we would most likely make a referral to someone outside the school for various levels of care, depending on the rest of the details.  If the student is actively suicidal, we would be recommending they go directly to intake or to their already-established mental health professional’s care.

3.  In both cases, I am obligated to call the student’s parents.  This means actually speaking with a parent – leaving a message isn’t enough.  Even if this is the 12th time the student has come in with the same issue.  We’re mandated reporters.  This is a state law.  I checked the state where this particular book took place and it’s a law there too.  If a parent is contacted and refuses to follow the recommendations, this sometimes counts as neglect (depend on the specifics) and we can call Child Protective Services.  The law allows us to get the child the help he or she needs even if the parent won’t.

4.  We follow up with the whole family as needed.  As much time as it takes.  Many times it’s a team effort between several professionals, all with the goal of the child’s emotional well-being.

 

If you’ve encountered someone in a school or working in mental health who is NOT doing these things, they’re doing it wrong and you should absolutely say something.

 

Is it fool-proof?  No.  Nothing is.  But these steps exist to ensure, as best we can, the safety of all students.  Everyone works differently, and every state has laws that vary, but the basics are nonnegotiable.  And when authors get those basics wrong, they’re doing a disservice to their readers.

 

Not every educator is going to be a positive influence.  Not every kid is going to be saved.  That’s unfortunately reality and breaks my heart.  But when we’re shown in books as flippant or uncaring or lazy (I can cite many more examples in YA than the one above), the kids who really need someone may not reach out.

 

So, this is my plea: if you’re writing about a teacher or a counselor or a therapist, please do your research.  Things are very different, even in the last 5 years.  Make sure you’re getting it right.  Because you just might save a life.